Fiction / In which Mitchii admits if you toss in a love triangle, chances are she will root the other guy! And it happens a lot!!!

Let’s start this post with I love love triangles to bits! Yes, yes, I know I’m being weird again and you probably now questioning my sanity as to why I love frustrating myself by getting into this kinda of love spectacle! Well I love drama and I already tried asking myself as to what I have gotten into again! But I’m the proverbial moth to a flame! I sometimes burned, but sometimes not. But often times…yeah.  20

In love triangle sometimes the main love interest is pretty obvious. He’s the first one to get introduced, the first man the female MC got acquainted to, and slowly infatuated to, but more often than not these guys are the ones with excessive life drama weighing the girl down with “I can’t love you now (or ever—not really) because I have so much on my plate right,” Sheesh!!! 3 And so enter the guy # 2 saving the day.

I know the authors purposely are making guy # 2 the opposite of the male lead. For balance? For variety? For competition (obviously)? And the qualities these authors are putting in this second lead guys are making my heart flutter so easily. Especially if I couldn’t take the drama the male lead is doing! This is the scenario I’ve always gotten into whenever the romance story I read has this least received plot device. He might be the underdog but once in a while when shipping gods bestowed my ships their happily ever afters, rooting for him was all worth it! So yeah, sue my competitive shipper heart!

But like I said they are making the second lead always the patient guy. The one who always works hard! The one who always there to say that he will be waiting until her heart is ready and healed (all thanks to main male lead for breaking it. *sighs*) Serious talk though, will you still root for the guy who keeps breaking her heart? No? And that’s why I always suffer in what we called the second guy syndrome! He might be the second in rank but he’s the number one in my heart!

Hirunaka no Ryuusei
Hirunaka no Ryuusei

There are series that were brave enough to tackle this and chose the second lead as the female MC’s ultimate love interest. One of my favorites was Hirunaka no Ryuusei 「ひるなかの流星」by Mika Yamamori. Suzume has continuously harbored feelings for sensei. Sensei wasn’t determined enough to pursue a relationship. Whether it was about his position, Suzume’s uncle’s intervention or probably for Suzume herself, he decided not to continue any longer and made her feel that his decision was final. Like sorry girl, we just can’t. I’ve read a different shoujo with the same kind of relationship, teacher-student. You know what the teacher did? He asked her to wait…and she waited. He waited. They were patient. Now, in Suzume’s case there was a boy waiting and unwavering. 14 So can you really blame me! And plus we all know the end was pretty romantic!!!

Another great example for me was Tonari no Atashi 「隣のあたし」by Atsuko Namba. Nina was in love with her childhood friend/neighbor for years. But he continuously gave her half-hearted responses. As if was teasing her that they can happen; making the poor girl kept on hoping. And that wasn’t cool dude. You like her, you like her! If you don’t, you don’t! There was nothing complicated with their relationship tbqh. But he made his bed, now he lied in it! So I’m pleased that there are cases of “it’s too late” and the “what ifs.” You can see that he regretted his actions but it was as I said too late. She moved on and loved another guy!

Cheese in the Trap
Cheese in the Trap

There are the times—many times that’s all they ever gonna be: the second guy! But even so I just can’t help loving him despite his unrequited love story. His moments? I treasured them! I love Baek In Ho from Cheese in the Trap [치즈인더트랩] by Soon Ki. Even though early on the author had already established the main couple, I was and still glued to his story! His relationship—the moments he had with Hong were just adorable! Their bickering! Their friendship is just so, so fun to read! 10 I don’t hate the main guy, Jung but In Ho has stolen my heart & gripping it tightly even if the ship has never sailed!

That being said, I still want my darlings to have their HEA! So dear authors, it’s OK to break stereotype! If you want me to love the guy you originally chose for the girl, make him redeemable! Make him better! I also loved to see couples on dating stage too you know! Still, second guy is always not the second in my heart! 19 Plenty of times they are the first because you authors are making him the most ideal (and for some more interesting) one out of the two! So again I ask, can you blame me?!

Do you also suffer from second guy syndrome? What are your memorable second lead guys that you’ve cheered on before? Dare to share it with me? 13


12 Responses to I often suffer from second guy syndrome!

  1. I agree that it’s strange that people so often root for the guy who keeps breaking the girl’s heart. Why do we want her to suffer? I’m usually like you and I prefer the actual nice guy.

  2. Tasya says:

    I also mostly fell for the second guy! I don’t know, I guess thats because lik you said, the #1 guy are usually not worth it for me 😀 Like he doesn’t want her, for whatever reason, but as soon as other guy wants her he started to make his way back like just STOP. Where the #2 guy usually just wait and try to get the girl off the #1 guy hehe 😀

    • Mitchii G. says:

      He sees it a competition rather than genuine affection. Like he just saw his worth when someone else showed interest & that’s kinda annoying. >.<

  3. Cherri says:

    I’m not much into love triangles but the one I did read that had me cheering for the second guy was Peach Girl. I had to collect the whole series because I had to know who Momo decided on. Otherwise I can’t say I’ve read a lot of love triangles.

    • Mitchii G. says:

      I think I know who he was, and iirc I was rooting for him too. I’m not gonna tell you the deets so I hope you’ll get to read it soon! 😀

  4. Nishiwaifu says:

    I have read a lot of mangas with love triangles! My fave second lead guy would be Shouma from Faster Than A Kiss. He was the first ever second lead guy I was rooting for!. It really broke my heart when he cried over the MC. He knew he never had a chance and was frustrated by that fact. UGH It still hurts every time I remember it <\3

    • Mitchii G. says:

      I was also a Shouma fan too. I mean I liked sensei just fine but the poor boy’s feelings was so innocent, so pure & I can’t help but to root for him even though he knew, we all knew it was unrequited from the start. Still cries every time I remember. T^T

    • Nishiwaifu says:

      Same feels!! *cries a bucket of tears for Shouma* TBH, I think him and Fumiko would’ve been more suited for each other (or maybe I’m just biased lol) but she seemed more comfortable around Shouma. Even when Fumiko and Sensei got married, she still wouldn’t say his name lol.
      Sigh I loved Sensei also but ughhh Shouma 😭😭

    • Mitchii G. says:

      I loved sensei too but Shouma had my heart. The last chapter made my heart squeezed becasue he looked so conflicted: on one hand he was happy for his brother, on the other, to see the girl she loved married to another man sucked!

  5. Simona says:

    I love dramas too, so it’s only natural I adore love triangles. And I too fall for the second guy. For some reason, they are more interesting and the first guy usually does something that is not so great. Though I don’t like when the female character can’t see how badly the guy is treating her, she’s still in love with him and I’m just sitting there speechless because there’s perfect guy right next to her. 😀

    • Mitchii G. says:

      I know!!! I’m like, girl can you see the oh so sweet guy supporting you all throughout? It pains me to see how often the sweet guy finish last? It just doesn’t make sense to me… T^T

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